My writing and my counselling course are the two areas that is really kicking ass right now in my life.
I started my blog Miracle Moments, to describe my health journey. It was really tough to write about the sequence of events and my physical and emotional trauma but it was so cathartic. It helped me to deal with my emotions and I found the writer in me. I have always enjoyed writing. I have always maintained a diary but now I attempt to write on a lot of things. My blog has been received well. In matter of nine months I have 12000 views and I am really happy about it.
It is one area , I am really looking forward to develop myself. I have enrolled myself for the creative writing course with Udemy and also attempting to write a short story and would like to write a novel in near future.
The another area again inspired by my illness, is counselling. I would like to become a counsellor or a wellness coach and help people to cope with their situation. I am doing few courses and I am learning so many new things about counselling as well as myself.
I am excited about these two things and something in me tells me this is going to work out. Amen!
It has to be the time management and minimising distractions.
I have had a corporate job where I always got to demarcate between personal and professional life. While working you only work and once home you switch off from work. That worked fantastically!
I do not work anymore and I have the whole day with me. I Continue to have my domestic and motherly duties but not the professional ones. I am trying to complete a certification and looking to start a practice on my own and this is where I am really struggling.
With pandemic everyone is home and that is making things worse. With me not having an “employment” per se, I feel my time and attention is being taken for granted. When I am studying there are questions question or disturbance which distracts me and I hate that. I am really behind my certification course. I miss the boundaries that came with my job.
Its not that my day is completely wasted but at the end of the day, only for few nights a week I feel accomplished. That is something I would like to improve.
I have recently joined a weight loss program and so healthy eating and exercise is on top of my mind. Additionally, today morning a close friend added me to a whatsapp group called “workouts”. So obviously the word I chose was “workout” and this image came up on 11th spot. I loved it! It was definitely inspiring me to write around it.
When I see this pic, it reminds me of the quote “ Talking care of yourself doesn’t mean me first, it means me too “.
Women often neglect themselves as they are always put the needs of others before them. They end up paying heavy price for it be it on health front, professional or emotional. It extracts too much out of them. I am sure at some point of time, every woman has thought “I wished I hadn’t neglected myself”
In the picture , I see a woman juggling motherhood and career but also prioritising herself and why not? The lady is doing one of the most difficult core exercise of planks while working on her laptop and she has kept her daughter busy with a mobile. She is really making the best of what she has. Its actually a pretty exhausting picture but one should not get overwhelmed. The thought behind it for me seems to be “my health matters” It is ok to exercise while completing mundane office tasks and keep the child busy with mobile device, so she can finish her self care.
Lets add “me” in the “I need to take care of” list. Good luck!
We often hear about “it was happening in front of me but I ignored and carried on” or “I could sense it but never thought it will happen to me”. We often miss the signals and they are pretty much all around us. That is a lesson I have learnt the hard way.
I started this blog to describe my experience of deathly illness, and in it I have described extensively, how not catching the signals landed me in the trouble. When I think about my life in general, I lost many opportunities and just ignored the signals and could not achieve my potential to the fullest because of this.
I will give you an example of my professional life. I worked with an IT company and my team had the maximum number of transformation projects. Every two year we had some or other transformation but one particular time, it got really tricky. We saw many execs leaving, restructuring was beyond our understanding, the new leadership had no passion and it was a signal.
The time was right to make a move. I knew it was not going in right direction. I should have moved out but I didn’t . I loved my organisation and team that I worked with and I wanted to stay and thought I will always have a place here.
Its another thing I fell sick and I had to leave any ways but what would have happened if I had stayed? there were so many people asked to leave. Professionals always get into dilemma about professional loyalty, but we must be aware that same organisation lays you off once they cant afford you and you cannot afford to be unemployed. So catch the signals and act on them.
At some level, we all get these signals in our professional and personal life, but we don’t act on them thinking that worst things wont happen to us, or we will be able to mange it. But once they happen, they are devastating and sets you back. So catch the signals and act!
I know you can’t read this butI have said many of the things I am mentioning in this letter, to you already. When I say these things to you, you look at me with such a sweet face making me wish if you could talk.
I wasn’t and I am still not a pet person, and if at all I was planning for a pet, it was certainly not from a feline variety.
Sayali was after us for ages to get a pet and we resisted it for a really long time. However, the pandemic changed everything. We could see how isolated our daughter was feeling and we relented finally. The terms and conditions to get you home were set. Sayali will be looking after you and not us and big one we will not keep you home after a month or two. Your bed will move to the car park.
When you came home, I was scared to touch you and be around you. It was very uncomfortable. I had never touched any animal before so you can imagine. Somehow I managed the courage and started touching you but still didn’t love or adored you.
Then one day everything changed and I am lucky to have captured that moment. You were more comfortable with Dinesh and I didn’t mind it at all. That night when we were watching TV, you just jumped on the sofa on which I was sitting with my legs stretched. I was bit shocked and then you came and just put your head in my lap. I was taken aback and couldn’t shoo you away. In fact I found it really sweet and managed to click your pic which I have attached below.
This is that face that made me stop being scared of you and liked having you around. You are like a small child who can not talk and doesn’t cry. I don’t need to take care of your food and cleanliness and thats a bonus. I think I am having the best deal when it comes to having a pet.
You are certainly a cute pet to have around and extremely frisky and playful.